“Rehashing old hurts is like watching the same movie over and over, hoping for a different ending. It’s not going to happen! Learn from it and move on. You don’t drown by falling into the water, you drown by staying there.” I don’t know the source of this quote (a friend sent it to me), but it’s an awesome thought. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. It’s human nature to get stuck, but we don’t have to stay stuck. I’ve learned to pray every day for two weeks for anyone I resent, that they receive in their lives what I want in mine. I keep it simple: “May she receive joy and the roots of joy.” That exercise keeps me from slip-sliding out of the moment, where my life is happening, right here, right now. Forgiveness has to factor in, also. Theoretically, once I’ve forgiven someone, I shouldn’t have to do it again. If the resentment comes back, then the forgiveness wasn’t complete. For today, I’m content to make forgiveness a process not an event. And, maybe, to forgive myself for not being better at forgiveness!